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Parenting Time And The Alcoholic Parent
Alcoholic parents make divorce and parenting time extremely challenging.
30% of American adults don’t drink at all. Another 30% have less than one drink a week. The top 10% of drinking Americans drink an average of 73.85 drinks a week.
The second decile of drinkers (20% to 10%) drink 15.3 drinks a week which can be a lot but probably does not affect their judgment.
Our society, in general, can’t make a distinction between the problem drinker and the casual drinker. So, how does a parent or a court discern if one parent is a big drinker (with all the problems that come with it) or a casual drinker?
Just a few years ago, a judge would simply shrug and say, “If there’s not a DUI or something on his or her record, I’m not going to restrict visitation because of alcohol.” Or, a judge would simply order, “No drinking during parenting time.” At worst, a parent would be ordered into some kind of alcoholism treatment or ordered attend alcoholics anonymous meetings for a few months.
Sooner or later, final papers would be entered between the parents which, at most, would mandate that neither parent drink while exercising their visitation.
Without regular breathalyzer tests it was impossible to properly balance the danger to the children from the parents drinking with the need of the child and the parent to see each other.
The court’s will always award parents visitation time in spite of the parent’s personal failings so long as the child is not in danger, “In allocating parenting time, the court shall not consider conduct of a parent that does not affect that parent’s relationship to the child.” 750 ILCS 5/602.7(c)
Breathalyzer and wireless technology have finally solved this problem with the Soberlink alcohol monitoring program.
Soberlink provides the alleged problem drinker with a breathalyzer that can immediately upload the results of the test to a server where the other parent, the lawyers and the court can see the results of the test.
What’s to prevent the alleged problem drinker from just having a sober friend blow into the device? This is the real added-value that Soberlink provides: the device takes a picture of you while you do the test and uploads that picture to the server along with the test results.
This technology can finally tell if a person is drinking, when they’re drinking and even how much they’re drinking.
The testing will usually be governed by the court order which will then be forwarded to Soberlink to set up a schedule with the alleged problem drinker.
Constant testing multiple times per day is not necessary. The point of the Soberlink technology is to see if the person has drank anything at all. It will detect blood alcohol levels from the night before. It will detect if the person had a drink an hour ago. The point of the technology is to find out if the alleged problem drinker has is drunk not whether they had a solitary drink at lunch.
So, a test in the evening is usually sufficient.
After a few months of clean tests, the alleged problem drinker will have essentially proved themselves to be reliably sober and the testing can stop.
If the parent accusing the other parent of being a problem drinker has no concrete basis to demand Soberlink tests, the accusing parent will likely be made to pay for the tests.
If, however, the alleged problem drinker has a long history of problem drinking, the alleged problem drinker may be ordered to pay for some or all of the costs associated with Soberlink.
What About Other Drugs?
The courts usually have a zero-tolerance policy when it comes to other drugs. The court will issue an order requiring mandatory testing and the testing time will not be known in advance. The tester will call the parent with the alleged drug problem at a random time on a random day and demand that they take a urine and hair follicle test within a two-hour period. This prevents people from taking a special drink to mask their drug use.
Even if an alleged drug user were able to mask their urine test, the hair follicle test would still reveal the drug use.
Don’t even think about showing up to your drug test or to court with a shaved head (this has happened to me). The drug test proctor and the judge will know what you’re doing. If you need help, ask for help.
What About Marijuana?
Marijuana is not legal in Chicago, Illinois but it is essentially decriminalized. As society’s attitudes change regarding marijuana, so will judge’s attitudes in allowing visitation to a sometime or regular marijuana user. Especially, when marijuana is prescribed by a doctor.
I am sure that a technology will be developed shortly that will be able to confirm whether someone is high or not. Until then, I would recommend curtailing the use of marijuana if you want to enjoy time with your children.
Addiction and Parenting Time
It’s important to note that while Soberlink and other drug testing technology provides assurance of a child’s safety the addiction issue will always remain with the addicted parent. Addiction issues are so transcendent that children often will attend meetings of their own, just like Alcoholics Anonymous meetings so that they, as children of addicts, can come to terms with their parents’ addictions. The child of an addict should always be enrolled in some kind of therapy so they can both acknowledge their parents’ addiction and avoid the possibility of becoming an addict themselves.
If you’re dealing with an alcoholic co-parent or have questions about what to do in your divorce from an alcoholic or drug addict, schedule a free consultation with my Chicago, Illinois law office.